Whole fish displayed in white crates filled with ice at a fish market.

Behind the Kitchen Door.The Japanese have a term, kitsui shigoto.Hard work. Dirty work. The kind that doesn't wash off easy.I thought I knew what it meant.I'd spent weekends scrubbing pots and pans in my father's restaurant since I was nine, standing inside ...

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On symbols, assumptions, and letting the work speak. Rank is supposed to clarify things. Experience. Authority. Where someone stands. But it often does the opposite. It invites assumptions, stories, and judgments that say more about the observer than the person being observed. This ...

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A fat loss story no one really tellsI wasn't going to write about weight loss. Too many of those stories already exist. But this isn't really about that. It's about shedding expectations, and finding a way of living that finally made sense ...

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Martial artist in San Ti stance practicing standing meditation under a covered park pavilion.

What I Learned Standing Perfectly StillI paid good money to learn ancient Chinese fighting techniques from a master with impossible green eyes. What I got instead was an unexpected lesson in facing my own mind. Here's how standing perfectly still for weeks ...

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