Close-up of a black belt tied around a gi

On symbols, assumptions, and letting the work speak. Rank is supposed to clarify things. Experience. Authority. Where someone stands. But it often does the opposite. It invites assumptions, stories, and judgments that say more about the observer than the person being observed. This ...

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Anime-style illustration of a middle-aged man standing in front of a blurred mirror, reflecting on personal transformation and shame.

A fat loss story no one really tellsI wasn't going to write about weight loss. Too many of those stories already exist. But this isn't really about that. It's about shedding expectations, and finding a way of living that finally made sense ...

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Martial artist in San Ti stance practicing standing meditation under a covered park pavilion.

What I Learned Standing Perfectly StillI paid good money to learn ancient Chinese fighting techniques from a master with impossible green eyes. What I got instead was an unexpected lesson in facing my own mind. Here's how standing perfectly still for weeks ...

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A quiet cobblestone street in a traditional Japanese neighborhood at sunset, evoking solitude, reflection, and the spirit of travel.

Six years after losing the man who taught me how to turn scars into storiesIt's been several years now since Chef Anthony Bourdain passed. This isn't a martial arts piece. It's not one of my usual reflections on training or discipline. It's ...

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